I help women in their 30s and 40s finally unearth why dating and relationships have been so hard.
TOGETHER, WE REWRITE THEIR ROMANTIC STORY.
THIS IS FOR
The ones who’ve nailed all things career wise, followed all the “rules,” done the therapy, read the books, been the quintessential good girl, but never experienced the relationship they want.
My new relationship is a true testimony to the fact that working with Clara was an invaluable experience for me. I could not recommend it more to anyone who has struggled with dating and relationships. With so much terrible dating advice out there, Clara has such a unique and thoughtful approach that is not to be missed.
— Female, 37, NYC
I BET YOU’RE STUCK IN some PATTERNS
Whether that’s endless first dates that don’t go anywhere to meandering situation-ships, a history of relationships you know were unhealthy but don’t know how to change, or a long spell of being single.
You’ve tried to figure it out. You’ve gone to therapy, read some books, you listen to all the podcasts but nothing ever really changes.
You’re tired. Really fucking tired. And burnt out. And lonely. And sad and frustrated. You often feel like you can’t keep going on in this way, and, AND, you also have a slight knowing that there has to be a different way.
There has to be something you’re not seeing.
YOU DON’T NEED SOMEONE TO TELL YOU HOW TO DATE. YOU NEED TO FIND YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS.
MOST DATING advicE DOES US A GRAND DISSERVICE.
It completely brings us out of ourselves.
It disconnects us from our own intuitive knowing.
It has us swimming in other people’s “rules” and “best practices.”
It focuses largely on the how…how to optimize the apps, how to catch red flags, how to text with ease, how to get over someone, how to get the guy, etc.
The content—from Instagram to Tik Tok and everything in between— drips with promise. You can feel this way! You can do this! It’s really just that you haven’t implemented all the things.
And yet here we are, still grasping for straws and feeling like shit. Much like a fad diet, the “results” are minimal and temporary at best.
i didn’t find IMMENSE ease in my dating life (and ultimately meet my life partner) by…
Downloading more apps
Treating dating like a job (and going on more and more and more dates)
Trying to position myself at places where there might be single men
Over-analyzing messages and attempting to “perfect” conversations
Working tirelessly to not come on as “too strong,” or not appear “too needy”
Hiding that I liked someone (or didn’t like someone)
Watering down my desires to have a family and get married
i did it by…
Getting really honest about what was and wasn’t working, and where I was stuck
Holding my desire for partnership with great reverence
Limiting my exposure to dating advice and content — basically, other people’s ideas
Connecting to my body
Giving myself permission to chart my own path to meet someone, versus just working with the methods that were being marketed to me
But most of all…
…by treating my entire romantic history — from my 4th grade crush to my latest relationship that went up in flames — like one big puzzle. A puzzle to be lovingly unraveled. A puzzle that held a tremendous amount of wisdom. A puzzle, that when understood properly, would give me all the insight and guidance I needed to create the relationship I wanted.
I WANT TO HELP YOU DO THE SAME THING.
LET’S WORK TOGETHER
I partner with women who want to bring radical clarity to their dating and relationship history and from there, use that wisdom and clarity to change their romantic future.
Clara has been a gift I wish I could bestow on any woman who finds herself adrift from where she wants to be and needs support to define her goal and actually get there. For the first time in the last eight years, I am actually excited and optimistic about my future.
— Female, 39, San Francisco
HERE’S HOW WE DO THAT
We work very intimately together for 12 weeks. Through a combination of:
One-on-one coaching calls
Customized written work + action oriented homework
Personalized reading, listening and watching assignments
24/7 availability via text + email for live support in between sessions
Full access to all my online course materials, including The Conscious Dater + Dating Meditations
….we’re working to create the following:
Complete agency over your dating life and pursuit of partnership
Complete clarity over the life you want to create for yourself, and thus the life you want to create with another
The concrete steps to be taken (in all facets of your life) to make the above two things a reality
Along the way, we’ll also do the following:
Mitigate the ongoing anxiety and emotional rollercoaster we can feel while dating, and make you feel so much more grounded in your dating life
Gain clarity on your individual patterning and limiting beliefs which hold all the underlying blocks when it comes to your pursuit of partnership
Limit the energy invested in dating (seriously) so you don’t feel so taxed and it doesn’t hinder other areas of your life
Create a sense of ‘wholeness’ — an inner knowing that even amidst an environment where everyone is telling you to do something else, you become your main compass
I had worked with therapists and life coaches before working with Clara. Either there wasn’t a great connection to support vulnerability and trust, or I felt criticized for some of the things I knew I needed to work on. Often I felt like I was talking at a nodding head with empathetic eyes.
Clara is so different. She creates a safe, welcoming and shared space so that I can and want to share everything I am (especially what I’m afraid to share). The multi-modal approach of journaling, voice messages and coaching sessions makes vulnerability, reflection and discovery accessible and substantive. The podcasts, books, exercises and journaling prompts she weaves into our work together feel intelligent and tactical.
She tells me what I need to hear in a way I need to hear it.
— Female, 39, San Francisco
ALL MY PROGRAMS INCLUDE
Detailed assessment of your past/current romantic relationships + key lessons to incorporate into our work.
A customized dating + relationship program tailored to your individual circumstances and larger romantic journey.
A individualized approach to meeting people in person + navigating the apps based on your unique needs and history
A review of your current professional life — what’s in alignment, what’s not, and how that’s playing out in your romantic life
A review of your non-romantic relationships (friendship, colleagues, etc) and how that’s influencing your romantic life
A review of your day-to-day life/schedule, with recommended changes to further optimize your environment for evolution + growth
IF YOU…
Want to pursue partnership in a way that isn’t so emotionally taxing and confusing
Want to develop a sense of agency in your dating life, versus feeling like you’re shooting around in the dark and shouldering unpredictable circumstances
Want to date in a way that creates actual, tangible change— deeper connections, less b.s., more moments of “Aaaah ok, I see where this is going. I see the big picture. I can guide myself.”
Want to do the actual work that will bring you to partnership (!)
Want to understand your attachment and intimacy wounds and implement simple, not all-consuming practices to heal
Want to thrive in partnership