The Conscious Dater

You find dating generally miserable and unproductive. You desire to meet someone and build a life together, but either can’t bring yourself to date, or find yourself stuck in an endless cycle of first and second dates, with little that goes beyond that. You feel limited by dating apps but don’t really see another way. You watch friends get engaged, have families, build lives, and you often wonder, “Why not me?” You also might sometimes wonder, “Is this even what I want?”

You’ve tried traditional methods of therapy, drank the koolaid on the some influencer informed dating advice, and while you’ve gained some awareness around your patterns and obstacles, it hasn’t made a significant difference in your pursuit of partnership. You know there’s something you’re missing. Something you’re not seeing. You long for clarity and actual change. And, ultimately, way more agency when it’s comes to the future of your romantic life.

The marriage audit

You’ve been married (or in a long term partnership) and things are feeling stale and disconnected. Perhaps the kids have reached an age where you and your husband are out of survival mode. While yours heads are slightly above water, you’re now struggling to come back together in any sort of meaningful way (emotionally, sexually, etc.). You feel more like a Director of Operations rather than a wife or individual.

You may have tried couples therapy, and while the process resolved a few things, things still feel…flat. Resentful. You’re grateful that your husband is helping out more around the house, but you’re still living like roommates. You long to go deeper, both as a means to reconnect to yourself first and then your partner. This is a program than can be done as an individual, or something I guide a couple through together.

The relationship retrospective

You’ve recently ended a marriage or long term relationship. You’re not ready to date just yet and are more focused on gleaning all the lessons and insights from your previous relationship. What led you to this person? Why didn’t it work out for the long term? What was your role in it all? How can you do things differently moving forward? 

You might also feel stuck on this last individual and are not sure how you’ll ever move on. You desire both a system and thought partner for thoughtfully reviewing your previous relationship. You want to lean into the anger, pain, sadness and grief, while also knowing you’re growing from it. You’re eager to gain deep clarity on your own patterns, blocks, and the greater role you played in the relationship as a means by which to build something much different moving forward.