Ways to Work with Me
THE CONSCIOUS DATER
A conscious dating program for high-achieving women who've built everything except the relationship they actually want.
THE BREAKUP/ SEPARATION REVIEW
A breakup program for women who've just ended a meaningful relationship or marriage and want to understand what happened so the next one looks nothing like the last.
What Clients say
Do you find dating generally miserable and unproductive?
You desire to meet someone and build a life together, but either can’t bring yourself to date, or find yourself stuck in an endless cycle of first and second dates, with little that goes beyond that. You feel limited by dating apps but don’t really see another way.
You watch friends get engaged, have families, build lives, and you often wonder, “Why not me?” You might also wonder, “Is this even what I want?”
You’ve tried traditional methods of therapy, drunk the Kool-Aid on some influencer-informed dating advice, and while you’ve gained some awareness around your patterns and obstacles, it hasn’t made a significant difference in your pursuit of partnership.
This is confusing, as most other areas of your life —your career, your friendships— reflect what you want.
My work is for women who have done a tremendous amount of work on themselves—years in therapy, a mountain of self-help books, a career that rewards them for exactly this kind of effort— and are still single, still wondering if they’ve run out of time to build the family and life they want.
That gap—between how capable you are and how stuck you feel in dating—is exactly where I work.
This program is for the type As, the doers, the achievers. The ones who “have it all together.” And yet they keep getting stuck in situationships, attracting lackluster men, or not dating at all.
This program is for you if…
You feel behind in life—like all the good ones have been taken.
You’ve made so much change in other areas of your life—but not here.
You’re lonely, and you often keep that to yourself.
You worry that if you finally meet someone, you’ll have to settle.
You’ve done the work—therapy, self-help— but your love life hasn’t changed.
You feel sad (and a little jealous) watching friends get married and have babies.
You can do everything on your own—but you’re so tired of living that way.
You’re burnt out on the apps, but lost on how to meet someone anywhere else.
If most of these feel true, we may be a great fit. If they don’t, this program isn’t for you—and that’s okay.
What Clients say
Here’s how the Conscious Dater works…
6
month cocoon
3
intimate coaching sessions/month
Customized written and action-oriented homework and exercises
Customized reading, listening + watching work
Weekday support and processing via voice note, text and email in between sessions
This is a highly supportive program but not highly demanding. It’s why I call it a cocoon.
My clients’ lives are FULL. This program will give you breathing room. It won’t add to your stress or to-do list.
the work, in three phases
awareness
We dig into your dating and relationship history—your patterns, where they stem from, and how they show up today.
phase 1
healing
Practices customized to you that soften the core wound and change your dating experience.
phase 2
integration
We translate it all into everyday life—shifting actual patterns and habits.
phase 3
All three phases are ongoing. We start with awareness, then rapidly bring in healing and integration. This work is not linear.
Okay, but…
Why is this different?
I don't just throw you into dating. We rest and review.
We first get radically clear on your relationship patterns and history, and why it hasn't brought you what you want yet.
We connect consistently, in real time. This is how we create actual change.
You voice note me after a session with a critical aha. I build something key you said in a session into a journaling prompt. We are excavating and integrating all along the way, so we don't get to session and are like, "Soooo… what happened this week?"
This work is specifically tailored to high achieving, highly capable and hyperindependent women.
We come with a unique set of romantic patterns that, when specifically tackled, change everything.
Imagine being…
Held in your pursuit of partnership, with a guide to carry you through all that you're experiencing—from bad dates to struggles with your boss, to the guy you can't let go of who will never commit.
It's a place for all of this to live and breathe, and with that, for you to move through it.
You will have:
Complete clarity on your past and current relationships—and why you've stayed stuck and unfulfilled
A customized dating + relationship approach, tailored to who you are and what you want
A way to date—on the apps AND in person—that doesn't feel utterly hopeless and miserable
A thought partner, guide and deeply safe space for the frustration, loneliness and confusion that come with struggling in relationships
A deep understanding of your key romantic hiccups—and how to keep working on them, so you can thrive in relationships
A healthy, thriving dating practice—and/or a new partner.
THE INVESTMENT
$12,000
for the full six-month program
$3,000
Deposit to reserve your spot
$1,500 a month
for the six months of the program— no lump-sum balance.
An intro call is a chance for you to get to know me and see if my approach meets the type of support and guidance you’re seeking.
Schedule one below to learn more or sign up to work with me:
You've recently ended a meaningful relationship or marriage.
You're not ready to date just yet and are more focused on gleaning all the lessons and insights from your previous partnership.
What led you to this person?
Why did you stay as long as you did?
Why didn't it work out for the long term?
What was your role in it all?
How can you do things differently moving forward?
You might be wondering…
You might also feel stuck on this last individual and are not sure how you'll ever move on.
You desire both a system and thought partner for thoughtfully reviewing your previous relationship. You want to lean into the anger, pain, sadness and grief, while also knowing you're growing from it.
This program is for you if…
You've recently ended a meaningful relationship or marriage.
You want to understand what happened—what kept you in the relationship, why you chose this person in the first place, and the role you played.
You're tired of talking to your friends and family about this person.
You potentially still wonder if this person was the one, and if you should get back together.
You feel like you should be over this person by now.
You want to feel the anger, pain, sadness and grief—and know you're growing from it.
If at least four of these feel true, we may be a great fit. If they don’t, this program isn’t for you—and that’s okay.
WHAT THIS WORK GIVES YOU…
Deep clarity on your own patterns, blocks, and the greater role you played in the relationship—so you can build something much different moving forward.
FROM FORMER CLIENTS
"In just a month and a half, I feel like I've been cracked wide open in ways I never have before. I've practiced being more vulnerable and started to identify the patterns I want to shift—all to make space to receive the love I so badly want."
"One of Clara's superpowers is that she asks 'sticky' questions that make you pause, peel back the layers, explore past experiences more deeply, and ultimately identify the behavioral patterns that may or may not be serving you."
“I had worked with therapists and life coaches before working with Clara. Either there wasn’t a great connection to support vulnerability and trust, or I felt criticized for some of the things I knew I needed to work on. Often I felt like I was talking at a nodding head with empathetic eyes.
Clara is so different. She creates a safe, welcoming and shared space so that I can and want to share everything I am (especially what I’m afraid to share). The multi-modal approach of journaling, voice messages and coaching sessions makes vulnerability, reflection and discovery accessible and substantive. The podcasts, books, exercises and journaling prompts she weaves into our work together feel intelligent and tactical.
She tells me what I need to hear in a way I need to hear it.”
— Female, 42, Austin
People often want to linger longer in reviewing their relationships than they feel like they're allowed to.
Friends and family grow tired of the ex's name, but we still have things to process. And for good reason.
And the thing is, whether it was a three-month fling or a 20-year marriage, time can be irrelevant when it comes to how something sits with you.
That relationship, for better or worse, changed you.
Who were you when it started? Who are you now?
What does this version of you want?
What do you live by?
What do you know to be true?
If swimming through those questions, spaces, and ongoing evolutions is a place you want to be, this is the program for you.
Here’s how the Breakup/separation review works…
3
month focused review
3
intimate coaching sessions/month
A system for thoughtfully reviewing your previous relationship
Customized reading, listening + watching work
Weekday support and processing via voice note, text and email in between sessions
THE INVESTMENT
$1,850
a month, for three months
$5,550
for the full three-month program
no deposit
rolling enrollment—start right away
An intro call is a chance for you to get to know me and see if my approach meets the type of support and guidance you’re seeking in this season.
I’ve run my practice for eight years.
I bring a tremendous amount of integrity to my work. I care deeply about my client’s evolution and ability to experience the things they so deeply want. If that’s something you’re curious about, let’s chat.