Are the dating apps making you miserable?

And yet you still deeply want a partner so feel like you have to be on them.

If there was ever a thing that had the ability to make us feel equal parts insane and miserable, all at the same time, dating apps might just be the number one thing to do it.

And WTF is with all the gym selfies?

LET ME GUESS…

Hinge just fed you 16 people you swiped ‘no’ on two weeks ago

People respond to your message but never ask you a question in return

Someone sent another weird message rife with way too many sexual innuendos

You were having a lovely conversation and then the person just disappeared…

You’re stuck in a pen pal scenario that’s not moving to the next step

You’ve run out of matches (again)

You were feeling so good about the Bumble date you had scheduled and then it just bombed

DATING APPS ARE DRIPPING WITH EMPTY PROMISES

They’re positioned as tools that are meant to create great ease when it comes to meeting your person.

They tend to do the exact opposite.

They have us questioning our reality.

They make us feel like no matter what we do, we can’t seem to get this thing to spit out a partner.

We go through cycles of using them or kind of using them, getting the same mediocre results, vowing to never use them again — only to repeat the same cycle.

This is not a sign you’re doing it wrong or “using” them wrong. These apps, are, at best, a faulty tool.

But, when managed and navigated in a different way, they actually are an effective way to meet people and build the relationship you want.

Dozens of my clients have done so. I, myself, met my husband on Hinge.

Introducing…

THE dating sanity capsule

A course designed to make dating apps less miserable and show you no nonsense ways to approach them and actually meet people.

YOU DO NOT NEED TIPS, TRICKS + ALGORITHM HACKS

If you did, you would have already met your person and resolved this issue with the help of Google.

Once I implemented the systems and approach I’m going to share with you (this is, quite literally, the exact approached I used for myself), dating apps became…something I, frankly, didn’t think about that much.

As if they were my online banking portal or weather app (ok, they were actually a bit more thrilling), it was a matter of checking them, seeing what was there, seeing what I wanted to do about it, and moving on.

I felt in CHARGE.

I no longer questioned my behavior. Should I swipe? Should I respond? What should I say?

I knew how to listen to myself and thus what to do. I knew what actions did and didn’t make a difference.

And I stopped making everything that went south or got weird my fault. I stopped making it MEAN something about me.

They were no longer a major source of anxiety and huge drain on my energy. It’s why I was able to date and thrive at work, maintain a social life, stay consistent with my workouts….basically live life and not feel like this thing was dictating my romantic future.

I want the same thing for every single woman.

HERE’S WHAT I’m not GOING TO DO

I’m not going to give you canned responses that “ensure” someone replies to you.

I’m not going to walk you through a 16 step process to perfect your profile photos.

I’m not going to make an argument for the best app or the worst app.

I’m not going to feed you an exact plan for never being ghosted, hurt or disappointed in the dating process.

I’m not going to give you a laundry list of red flags to watch out for.

Nor am I going to sugarcoat the vulnerable realities of the work required to co-create a life with someone.

I’m not going to dismiss your loneliness and fear with b.s. platitudes.

HERE’S WHAT I am GOING TO TEACH YOU

When you’re questioning how to communicate that building a family is a priority for you or that you prefer people who don’t drink, I’m gonna walk you through the way to do that feels like you.

When you’re exhausted with just CHATTING with someone and you’re like caaan we effing meet in person?! I’m going to show you how to get there.

When it’s 2 a.m. and you’re manically Googling advice on how to know whether someone is interested in you or not, I’m going to teach you how to source that knowledge from within.

When you’re wracked with anxiety around what to message back and you feel like your entire romantic future hangs in the emoji you choose, I’m gonna give you the tools to walk yourself confidently through that scenario.

When you’re exhausted and burnt out and just can’t handle another bland date, I’m going to show you how and when to take a break from dating that’s actually way more advantageous to your dating life.

And more. I’m telling you, it’s called the sanity capsule for a reason.

This course is going to drastically lessen the anxiety, frustration and misery that have come to be synonymous with trying to meet someone.

That way you can devote a lot less time to using them, and way more time (and energy) to living your life.

Oh, and you’ll actually meet people you connect with.

“Clara is the next level dating and lifestyle coach you didn’t know you needed. She has elevated not only my personal life, but also the rest of my life. The work we did helps me lives better every single day and will continue to help me for the rest of my life — of this, I am sure.”

HERE’S WHAT you get

I love a capsule. It feels like a carefully curated collection of things, designed to make my life easier. 

So I created a capsule of videos, stories and lessons— think digestible bites — designed to make online dating not feel like such a effing slog, as well as, help you actually leverage these tools to meet someone.

    1. How to get the most out of this course

    2. Why dating apps make us feel so miserable and how it’s not our fault

    3. How to actually leverage these tools and make worthwhile connections

    1. Choosing the app that’s best for you

    2. How to choose profile photos that actually feel like you

    3. How to write prompts that communicate who you are and what you want

    4. What does and doesn’t matter about your profile

    1. How to know which profiles to swipe on and not get stuck in overanalysis

    2. How to engage in conversation and not get stuck in “Am I doing it right?”

    3. How to keep conversations moving and shift to meeting in person

    4. Setting limits on your time spent swiping and chatting

    5. How to leverage you intuition in the process

    6. How to know whether to meet in person or not

    7. How to embody your desire for a relationship through your behavior on an app

    1. Ghosting, bad dates, weird messages — how to deal

    2. How to normalize bad dates

    3. Avoiding dating advice that isn’t serving us

    4. Managing texting anxiety

    5. How to have dating boundaries with friends

    6. How to own your desire for a partner (and why it matters)

    7. How to shift your resistance to dating

    8. How to open yourself up to joy (yes!) in dating

    9. When, why and how to take breaks

    10. What to do when you’re not getting any messages or matchesHow to navigate the grey area of dating

    1. My wish for you in dating, in this course

    2. How to leverage your intuition in dating

    3. How to take all of this deeper — if you desire

how does the course work?

There’s a lot of flexibility here. This course is designed to meet your needs.

Maybe you’re craving a refresh, want to wipe all your profiles, and give your online dating life an overhaul.

watch the videos from start to finish.

You find yourself FLOODED with anxiety because someone isn’t texting back?

Drop into the ‘Managing texting anxiety’ video.

You’re feeling ‘behind’ because you haven’t been on a date every week this month and think if you are than that some how makes you better and more successful?

Watch the ‘Dating isn’t a numbers game video’

You’re chatting with someone on Coffee Meets Bagel and feel like you’re getting lost in your head? Or, want to transition to text but don’t know how to do so?

Watch the module on ‘How to consciously swipe + message’

You can totally dip in and dip out. Jump to the modules you need most, or dig in sequentially.

I made these videos something you can easily — and will want to — return to again and again, for the support and guidance you’re craving in that very moment.

Get your (DATING) sanity back

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

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  • No. This is a fully self lead experience (because I wanted you to have something that you could come back to again and again).

  • Forever. This can be a resource you turn to whenever you need it.

  • You’ll have 14 days to explore the course after which point if you’re like “Nope, not for me,” you’ll be able to get a full refund. Please note your refund MUST be processed through Teachable (you’ll receive instructions via email) where the program content is hosted. No refunds can be processed after 14 days or directly through I Think I Like You.

  • As soon as you complete your purchase, you’ll be directed to Teachable to set up a login and get access to the content.

  • I’d encourage you to check out more about my Private Coaching.

Yes to clarity, ease and not feeling like i’m at the mercy of these eff-ing tools

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