EP 123 | How do we sit with the desire for a relationship while also not knowing when it will happen?

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Written By Clara Artschwager

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This is a question I dance with, and often, with clients. How do we sit with our desire for something, and attempt to work towards it, but not know if or when or how it's going to come to fruition? How do we do so while we watch it happening for other people around us?

In this episode I'm addressing both how to sit with the unknown and tangible ways to move us closer to relationship. These are the exact practices I've walked my clients through over the past six years.

I'm specifically covering:

  • The inherent uncertainty of life

  • The value of confronting questions like: What if I never meet someone? What would I then do with my life?

  • The ways we put our lives on hold (or live in inauthentic ways) until we meet our partner that actually act to block our ability to meet someone

  • The two greatest obstacles I see for people who want to meet a partner really badly but it isn't happening

  • The similarities between people who date really manically and those that avoid dating completely

  • The exact thing I would say to anyone who said: “Clara— I want to meet someone and I want to speed up that timeline. What can I do?”

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