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EP 123 | How do we sit with the desire for a relationship while also not knowing when it will happen?

In this week's episode I'm tackling the following question: How do we sit with our desire for something, and attempt to work towards it, but not know if or when or how it's going to come to fruition? How do we do so while we watch it happening for other people around us?

In this episode I'm addressing both how to sit with the unknown and tangible ways to move us closer to relationship. These are the exact practices I've walked my clients through over the past six years.

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EP 122 | We don't necessarily need our partners to come full therapized, our confusion around settling, and the emotional labor necessary for us all in relationships w/ Kara Loewentheil

In this week's episode I'm chatting with NY Times best-selling author and master life coach, Kara Loewentheil. Kara is also the founder of The School of New Feminist Thought. In this episode we discuss how to not get derailed by someone's texting patterns, what it does and doesn't mean to settle in relationships, the emotional labor necessary in all relationships and more.

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EP 120 | Part III: How our drive to be good, to be high achievers, to put other people's needs before our own keeps us single or stuck in unhealthy relationships

Today's episode covers how the behaviors eldest daughters/hero children adopt, that initially serve as forms of self preservation and receiving love, are, in many ways, in direct conflict with the behaviors and skills that build healthy partnership. That allow us to connect deeply with others, be supported and loved by others, be seen and witnessed in our authenticity.

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EP 119 | Part II: Why eldest daughters/hero children can remain chronically single or just have so much resistance to dating

This episode kicks is a second in a series series that takes a deep dive into the characteristics of eldest daughters/hero children and their specific struggles in romantic relationships. If you grew up in a family where you took on the role of peacekeeper, good girl, always easy and accommodating — this episode will really resonate. Today’s episode looks at why women of this kind can remain chronically single or deeply resistant to dating.

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Mini Ep: Why do women who don’t do the work, who are are just as messed up as the rest of us, find great people? Why does it just never happen for me?

In today’s episode I’m digging into the following conundrum: Why do women who don’t do the work, who are are just as messed up as the rest of us, find great people? Why does it not happen for women who feel like they’ve done so much healing and therapeutic work?

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EP 115 | All Things Money And Partnership

We are digging into all things MONEY today. In this episode I'm taking you behind the scenes of the financial picture in our marriage, how we've moved through really hard money conversations and how working on my own relationship with money has been the most impactful thing when it comes to finding ease around finance in my relationship. That said, it's definitely a work in progress!

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EP 114 | On Making, Maintaining and Letting go of Friends in Our 30s + 40s

On the heals of a very significant friendship ending for me in the last few years, the nature of friendship — what drives our friendships, what they look like, how our relational patterns manifest in this space (i.e. outside of romance) — has been of particular interest to me. I’m digging into all of that and more, with specific focus on how friendship evolves in our 30s and 40s in today’s episode.

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EP 113 | On trusting the (divine) timing of our lives + What's behind *feeling* behind

Do you feel behind in life? It's a question I face and contemplate with clients (and often myself) all the time. Today's conversation isn't one geared towards telling you to "be grateful," or "just accept" everyone is on their own timeline. I'm going to the heart of what I believe rests beneath the feeling of being behind, whether we feel it in relationships, work, money, or simply life in general.

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EP 112 | The Career Conversation I’m Having With All My 38ish Friends

In the last few months, I’ve noticed a change in the career conversations I’m having with friends. We’re all saying: I want a less demanding job. I don't care as much about climbing the corporate ladder. I want a job I enjoy but one that doesn't rob me of my life. I want more time with my family and to invest in my hobbies. That's the focus of today's episode.

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EP 111 | On Resisting Ease in Your Dating Life/Life in General

Did you grow up learning to work hard, get good grades, get into the best school(s) possible, hit any academic and professional achievement that you could? I did. And I learned to love it.

I learned to love, and thus value, hustle, hard work, striving, strain, stress. On the one hand, it's served me well in what I've accomplished. On the other hand — and I see this with women all the time — it's made me resistant to pleasure, enjoyment and rest in my life.

In today's episode, I'm breaking down how that resistance shakes out in our romantic experiences

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EP 110 | You’re Going to Have to Royally F*ck Up In Your Dating Life

Are you trying to maniacally control your dating life? Do you struggle with just being present in the experience of getting to know someone, and not being overriden by anxiety or fears of where something is going? Do you then beat yourself up when the relationship doesn’t shake out exactly as you’d hoped? Today’s episode explores the nature of the dating era we live in — how we hold faulty expectations of how smoothly finding a partner should go, and how if we don’t our expectations we then not only blame ourselves, but rob ourselves of the benefits of the experience.

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EP 108 | An Initial Look at My Journey Into Pregnancy

After my husband and I miscarried last year, I expected the second we got pregnant again I would be over the moon. And I was. But I didn't anticipate also feeling so scared, a bit regretful. Part of that was informed by debilitating morning sickness and exhaustion, but the other part was the new reality: This baby was really coming.

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EP 107 | On being the girl who never got asked out and *now* desiring a relationship

Most of my clients buried themselves in their academics growing up. Early on they discovered that was a guaranteed way to receive love, praise and affection. The thing about operating that way is that it very much creates an identity of: I'm not desirable, I'm not worthy of a boyfriend. Today's episode explore how we can shift that adolescent identity and allow for romance later in life.

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EP 106 | When You Just Need to Put Everything Down

What do we do when we hit those points in life where it all becomes too much? Where “pushing through,” is no longer an option? In today’s episode I’m sharing how I hit one such patch (and hard), this spring, and what I’m doing to slow down and ease my way back to myself.

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