Ep 71: The unique struggles overachievers face in dating + relationships

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I meet so many women —often in their later 30s— who say something along the lines of "I focused on my career, that's why I'm single." They're no stranger to hard work. They're the quintessential over achiever and they've been that way for as long as they can remember.

But is their "focus on work," really the reason they're still single? This isn't about pointing fingers or laying blame, this is about getting curious to the consistent pattern and narrative.

In this episode, I'm digging into the learned behaviors of overachievers and how that actually comes in direct conflict with meeting someone who is emotionally available and ready for a relationship. 

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Identifies as an overachiever and also struggles to find the relationship they want

  • Finds a lot of safety in work — whether it's a job or schoolwork, they've always been the one to work hard

  • Either struggles to meet someone or is in a relationship but they feel like they're always the one giving more, making sacrifices, etc

  • How the nature of our nervous system is actually attuned to repel the thing we say we want

  • How are hyper-independence — our ability to do "everything on our own," the thing we often pride in ourselves in serving as a major obstacle in our ability to meet someone

  • How finding our worth in doing — working, achieving, etc, isn't helping us

And so much more. This is suuuuch a juicy episode ya'll.

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