how to meet people in person
in the digital age
we tend to think…
Meeting people in person requires going to bars, drinking drinks we don’t want to drink….or joining some sort of intramural sports league.
I don’t know about your, but I have zero desire to ever play kickball again.
meeting people in person saved me.
When I was 28, the it relationship I thought would lead to marriage and hitting my timeline of having a house and babies by 30 ended. It was heartbreaking and scary, but I knew it was right.
Your typical late bloomer, I’d never really dated before (unless you count drunken hookups from college), so as anyone would do in 2014…I joined the dating apps.
A few miserable dates in, and ok, yes, still licking my breakup wounds, I was like I CANNOT BE ON THESE THINGS. (Side note, I don’t hate the apps, I met my husband there, I have a whole course on navigating them with ease.)
So I got off and found myself with a deeply curious desire to meet people in person. But I was terrified. Utterly terrified.
But I lived in Manhattan and constantly saw people on the subway or in line for my morning oat milk latte or at the checkout at Whole Foods and thought, “Are they single? Could I go up to them? What if I just tried!?”
It took me an entire year to work up the courage, but once I did, I truly could not be stopped. The ability to do so not only made dating feel so much better, it tee’d me up to sort through all the insecurities and limiting beliefs I held. Like….not being pretty enough, not being the girl who gets chosen, not being the girl who gets to be sexy or desires to meet someone, and so much more. It was totally unexpected and surprising.
This course breaks down exactly what I learned and implemented in that — so you can start working up the courage and experiencing so much more agency in dating sooner rather than later.
Clara has been a gift I wish I could bestow on any woman who finds herself adrift from where she wants to be and needs support to define her goal and actually get there. For the first time in the last eight years, I am actually excited and optimistic about my future.
MY APPROACH TEACHES YOU HOW TO:
Weave in person dating into your DAY to DAY— not adding to the things you need to do
Work through the debilitating fear of going up to someone (I know! It’s there! We face it head on.)
Shift your mindset around meeting people in person — no matter who you are and where you live
Keep from getting stuck in the “What do I say?? What do I do??” (Hint: It doesn’t matter)
Handle rejection, mixed messages and transitioning to getting someone’s number
HERE’S WHAT’S INCLUDED
How to Meet People in Person:
Lesson 1: Meeting People in Person Isn’t a Strategy, It’s a Mindset Shift
The exact shift I made that led to dozens of in person dates and three full blown relationships that led from meeting people in person
Lesson 2: Why We Think We Can't Meet People in Person (and how it's not true)
How to overcome all your limiting beliefs and fears
Lesson 3: Three Approaches to Meeting People in Person + Why It's Important to Fail
An outline of three different ways I went about meeting people (complete real life stories) and why not having things work out is part of it
Lesson 4: A Step by Step Plan for Working Up the Courage to Go Up to Someone
A way to ease yourself in and build up the courage — literally anyone is capable of this
Journaling Work That Isn’t Boring
Questions and exercises that are both curious and playful (they’ll make you think) but also help you really integrate this content.
Course Pre-Work:
Lesson 1: What's Important to Know About Dating in the Digital Age
Lesson 2: Most People Date from a Place of Ego
Lesson 3: "I want a relationship but I struggle to date.”
Lesson 4: How to Bring Your Heartfelt Desires to Life
BONUS CONTENT
Managing Dating Anxiety + Stress
Lesson 1: Managing Texting Anxiety
Lesson 2: Managing Dating Advice Content
Lesson 3: Green Flags, Red Flags, All the Flags
Lesson 4: Setting Dating Life Boundaries with Friends
Lesson 5: Why Dating Isn't a Number's Game and How This Idea F*cks with Us
Lesson 6: When You Like Someone and You're Not Sure if They Like You Back
Lesson 7: Having Things Not Workout Is Necessary
Lesson 8: How to End Things Thoughtfully
Dealing With Your Fears About Being Single Forever
Lesson 1: “I’m afraid I’m too behind in life”
Lesson 2: When You Believe You're Just Too Anxious and That All the Secure Men are Gone
Lesson 3: When You Think You Just Live in the Wrong Place + There Aren't Enough People
Lesson 4: When You're Worried You're Going to Have to Settle
Lesson 5: When You're Worried About Your Ability to Have a Baby
Yes to having more agency in my dating life, not feeling so tethered to the apps, and all around feeling better about myself.
how much time is required?
You can put as much or as little time into the BDN as you’d like. To get the most out of it during this 4 week period, I recommend allotting a minimum of 1-2 hrs/week, but you’ll be given resources to do WAY more. As I said above, while this is a dedicated break, everything in the program can be treated as an ongoing resource.
ARE THERE ANY live sessions?
Other than weekly office hours which will be done at a mix of times to accommodate all time zones, there are no live sessions.
HOW LONG WILL I HAVE ACCESS TO THE CONTENT?
Forever.
What if i want to do this but i’m currently seeing someone and still want to explore it? Can I keep seeing them but still do this?
You can take and treat The Big Dating Nap however you like, and benefit tremendously. Before deciding whether you want to pull this person into the experience, I recommend listening to episode 78 on situation-ships and episode 88 on whether you should stay or go, to determine whether you stop seeing someone. That said, you might be dating someone great who is well worth exploring! The core of the BDN is helping you understand your dating patterns and obstacles, basically the things that make dating and relationships uniquely hard and sticky for you. That’s always good stuff to be learning and will tremendously benefit any relationship you entertain.
Here’s what I don’t recommend doing: Dipping a toe in this course while still putzing around on the apps and not dedicating anytime to looking inward. That’s a big waste of money.
What if I don’t like it and want my money back?
You’ll have 14 days to explore the course after which point if you’re like “Nope, not for me,” you’ll be able to get a full refund. Please note your refund MUST be processed through Teachable (you’ll receive instructions via email) where the program content is hosted. No refunds can be processed at 14 days.
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