Episode 19: Why we *think* dating is a number's game—but why it actually ISN'T.
Ever been stuck in that cycle where you go on a bunch of dates (you’ll literally say yes to anyone), feel like they all go horribly, swear off dating for some amount of time, find yourself yearning to find someone again and then say, “Well, it is a numbers game so I better just start dating again?”
Here’s why it’s not a numbers game, though; the people we bring into our world - whether we simply cross paths with them or find ourselves drawn and attracted to them - is driven by old patterns that thread their way through our lives from a very young age.
We attach to the “numbers game” concept to give ourselves a veiled sense of control about our romantic outcomes, as if going on more dates “increases our chances.” It’s a way to rationalize and make sense of the situation rather than zooming out, looking at the big picture, and making sense of the patterns that are keeping us in the cycle we’re so ready to get out of.
If you want to hear more about how old conditioning affects dating and how to start breaking these patterns, tune into last week’s episode: Am I *actually* feeling this in my gut? Or is this just old conditioning?