Episode 29: On the tendency to mute ourselves when we're around someone we like.
"Just be yourself!" has got to be one of the most grating phrases known to mankind. At least it is to me. And not just grating, but wildly unproductive.
Recently a listener DM'ed me with the following: I clam up when I don’t want a guy to think I’m interested.
The muting then left her feeling hollow and uninspired. What gives? Why do we do this?
In this episode we explore:
The roots of these edited versions of ourselves, be they a type of muting or some other performance
Why we tend to turn 'on' these version of ourselves when we're around someone we like
How we can work to dismantle these behaviors and settle more into ourself
This episode will resonate if:
You struggle to "Be yourself" slash question even what your "true self" is
You tend to clam up, feel awkward or become anxious around someone you're into
You've historically struggled with codependency, enmeshment and other tangled behaviors
I Think I Like You The Group (!), DM me if you're interested.