Episode 49: We all just want to meet the one person that will deliver us from our shame and pain.

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We all just want the whole *thing*— whether the thing is a person or a house or a job or a something to work out. To happen. To just....be there. And so we load ourself up with how tos and programs, hoping to skirt the timeline of life in some fashion. But it's the very timeline itself that helps us evolve into the person who will be the partner or the owner or the placeholder of a new position.

In this episode I go into:

  • A specific dating experience of mine from 2020 ( deep in a single period) where the person and series of dates, themselves, were never actually about developing something with that person– the purpose of our paths crossing fell entirely outside the realm of my romantic life— but served me tremendously

  • How my perspective on the scenario represents a greater philosophy I apply to my whole life, which translates to a whole lot more joy, freedom and agency

This episode will resonate with anyone who:

  • Hungers to just have their life, relationship, career, etc "figured out"

  • Feels a tremendous amount of disappointment after every date that doesn't turn out to "be the one"

  • Overanalyzes individuals, dating experiences, or simply experiences in life to extract their greater meaning– versus working to let go

  • Struggles to not see their life as one big ticking clock timeline

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Podcast music written and produced by James Maldonado


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