A play by play of the year and half leading up to meeting my now fiancée. Admittedly, I don't like framing at that way, as if it was an awful experience and now I'm free! Truth be told, I'm just on another journey. One that's testing me, challenging me and stretching me in new ways, but still very much to the tune of human evolution.

This episode marks a story— a relationship story— I've been wanting to share for quite some time in its entirety.

We tend to think the only way we’re either moving towards partnership or putting ourselves out there is to date. I.e. go on the dates (I suppose we could include swiping in there, too). that not only creates a lot of pressure, but this notion isn’t true at all. There are so many more concrete things we can do (and I’m not just talking about journaling furiously in your manifestation journal) to foster a better understanding of ourselves, as well as create a better relationship with ourselves, which in turn drives our ability to share our lives with someone.

Nothing about online dating—despite what Hinge, Tinder, and the like may claim— is intuitive or seamless. That's not to say it's impossible, but it most certainly is an emotionally challenging and complicated environment (and that's putting it lightly). But there is hope. Yes, hope! And it has less to do with/nothing to do with how to tweak your profile or perfect the algorithm and so much more to do with developing a deep self awareness around the nature of these tools, how the digital environment impacts how we relate to one another, and how our own sh*t around dating, relationships, intimacy desire, rejection and so much more, shows up in the online environment.

Could someone become better at flirting by way of words or content? I never even thought of myself, a Dating and Relationships Coach, as skilled at flirting, and yet I’d had successful relationships….so what gives?

From being labeled a ‘dating expert’ by friends, when that felt so far from the truth, to meeting lovely individuals with ease whilst grabbing my morning coffee (and the internal reckonings that motivated all of that), I’m sharing what really motivated this transformation.